Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Sexual Abuse Online (A crime that needs addressing)...

There's been a lot happening the past weeks online. Sadly not good things, but nevertheless these things need to be addressed and talked about as much as possible in order for change to be made and for the online community to move forward as a safer place.

In the past week two you tubers have been accused of sexual abuse and rape. This cannot go unnoticed, unpunished or forgiven.

You will probably have heard about Sam Pepper's case. Personally I've never liked his videos. I think many of his other videos such as when he lassoed girls to "pick them up" and many of his videos centred around getting girls to kiss him are quite misogynistic and clearly put the girls involved in uncomfortable, pressuring situations. But the video that raised an issue and brought the worlds attention was a video in which he pinched girls 'butts' as a pranked.

The issue is that its not a prank. It's sexual assault.

Sam made apology videos but instead of apologising he used several different excuses in an attempt to get out of blame.

Yet at the same time many young girls including youtuber thisbedottie were coming forward with extremely serious claim-
Several more girls have come out with their stories surrounding Sam Pepper.
 Then two days later a youtube I watch called Ania released this video, stating that a youtuber called Jason (Veeoneeye) had sex with her when she was 15 and under the influence of alcohol. He was 20 at the time. THIS IS RAPE.
Again suddenly many more girls came forward with more stories about Jason and how he had sexually abused them.
Jason, just like Sam, made an apology video. Firstly the video was unlisted so you cant see it unless you have a direct link (link HERE ) In which he admits to rape, but blames it on being raised in a very strict family so he "didn't know the rules". UGH THIS MAKES ME SO ANGRY.
If you follow me on twitter you'll know that this situation as got me very 'worked up'. There are just so many injustices and things that disgust me about this situation youtube has found its self in.
1) I struggle to understand to understand why anyone who is a public figure would see that as a 'free pass' to break the law. And not just break the law, I personally see rape as one of the/if not the worst crime anyone could commit. Being a celebrity doesn't mean you're allowed to manipulate, use and abuse your fans.
2) The fact that there are twitter accounts called "we support you Jason" and the hashtag #staystrongjason disgusts me. People who shrug off what they've done saying "its in the past" or forgive them saying "they've changed" no. You cannot let rape go unpunished and you cannot forgive what they've done. If we let people off with these sorts of things it will continue. All support should go to the victim, never the rapist.
3)Rape is never the victims fault. People on twitter have been blaming Dottie (claiming she provoked Sam and led him on) and Ania (saying she consented (she was 15-she couldn't consent) and saying she was drunk so it was her fault). This is disgusting. The acts of Sam and Jason are in no way the victim's fault. It is so cruel to blame them. Imagine if it was your sister that was a victim, you wouldn't even think for a second that it was 'her fault'.   
4)This is not the first round of accusations made about youtubers. Other famous creators Alex Day and Edplant were also outed as sexual abusers, Yet Edplant has returned to youtube. We cannot let this happen again. We cannot let Sam or Jason return to youtube or any position of status online, otherwise this cycle will continue.
It makes me so angry that little legal action has taken place. If these accusations were made about 'normal people' they would be arrested, Yet neither have. This cannot go unpunished.
We're talking about rape. Rapists being allowed to 'walk free' of their crimes. Its unjust.
I believe that more publicity and attention needs to be brought to the severity of these claim and action needs to be taken if youtube ever wishes to be a safe, respectable platform again. Without talking about this situation no change will ever come.
Rape cannot be swept under the rug. The victims need supporting and cases such as these cannot go unnoticed.

Wednesday, 24 September 2014

12 Valuable Lessons To Teach Yourself...

1)      You’re allowed to like yourself. You’re allowed to compliment yourself. You’re allowed to be happy with who you are right now. You’re allowed.

2)      It’s okay to walk away. Choose your battles-you can avoid some pain by simply walking away from the things that you know will burn you.

3)      Learn to wake up every morning and realise it’s a new day. It sounds cheesy but you need to realise that if you put on happy music, force yourself to smile (if you cant manage that, force yourself to not frown/cry) and do everything you can to stop yourself thinking about anything bad that may have happened because today is a new day and you get to choose how it goes.

4)      Appreciate and let the little things comfort you and warm you from within. It’s too easy to brush off or ignore a person smiling at you in the street or someone holding the door open for you. Take comfort and joy in the fact that someone you’ve never met saw you and thought you worthy of a smile or worthy of 10 seconds of their time. And return these little things to others.

5)      Ask for help. Showing a little bit of weakness isn’t a flaw and no one; NO ONE is going to judge you for needing a little support.

6)      Be nice to others. Calling someone fat makes you no skinnier. Calling someone ugly makes you no prettier. If you project kindness and love, you’ll feel it within yourself and you need to learn that you never know what another is feeling, you need to learn that making someone feel bad will never make you feel better.

7)      Don’t rely on someone for your whole happiness, but still remember to let people in.

8)      Let go of things that become too heavy. If you carry round the empty shells of every argument and every hurtful comment and every breakup and every bad situation and every bad time as a reminder, it will break your back. Let go.

9)      “Healing may not come quickly, but it will come” some things take time and if you don’t feel instantly better-its ok. Just keep going and soon it will all be good again.

10)  Say how you’re feeling. Bottling emotions up is never a good thing. If you’re annoyed at a person-tell them. Quiet resentment will only every create hurt.

11)  Your body doesn’t define who you are. The quality of your skin, the whiteness of your teeth, the definition of your bones, the size of your thighs-NONE OF THESE THINGS DEFINE WHO YOU ARE. You are your personality and all the things within yourself. So never, ever treat yourself as a lesser version of yourself; never, ever abuse yourself because of a change on the outside. Skin and muscles and bones aren’t what make you beautiful.

12)  Let yourself be happy and do everything you can to give yourself the best chance of staying happy.

Hope you're all doing good, let me know if you want more posts like this as I love writing them

Have a lovely lovely day

Sunday, 7 September 2014

Inspo From The Greats...

I know I know its been a while, I have no excuse other than I'm so lazy!

Well guys summers over and I've officially started sixth form which means I have to wake up and choose a functioning, hopefully nice outfit every morning. I cant just wear either leggings, or the same outfit all week, so this is a hard task! So I'm constantly looking for outfit inspiration and recently I've been loving the vintage feels again and I keep looking to the same people again and again. So I thought I'd share a couple of my inspirations and I put together some outfits while online shopping (and by online shopping I mean looking at clothes and wishing I could afford them!)

Marianne Faithful is the 60s in a person. The hair, the makeup, the clothes, everything. She's just the embodiment. I turn to Marianne when I want a softer, more feminine look with masculine twists. Short skirts, boots, cute collar, boyfriend coats, eyeliner flicks, defined crease, nude lip. I love coats so much, like seriously I think I have a coat addiction. Coats are my cocaine right now ahh I love them! And to me Marianne knows how to work a masculine coat without it drowning out the rest of her look. To be honest, She bagged Mick Jagger in his prime, She was doing something right!

Ahhh Francoise. Her style is so simple so perfect for college as I can just put on a top and trousers and boom I'm from France (not really but lets just pretend). Cigarette trousers and little jumpers with high necks are key. Stripes are also key so the black and white jumper (which is from h&m and which I own woo) is ideal. I love love love Francoise's hair like ughh fringe feels alert! She has a perfect face as well, that's all I shall say.

I saved the best for last. Stevie flippin Nicks. I'm in love. Literally. Her music, the amount of hours me and my boyfriend have spent listening to rumours. Best album ever! Her style is perfect for college as its so floaty and comfy. So smock dresses, kimonos and even really big shirts and cardigans. Anything that allowed free movement and has an interesting silhouette Stevie would wear. I'm also totally obsessed with her hair, it has so much volume, HOW?! Young Stevie Nicks was all kinds of perfect. enough said!

As you can see I'm really craving a fringe, the urge is back guys so watch this space to see if I cave in!

Hope everyone's doing well, sorry for my absence but I'm back baby!
Have a lovely lovely day